Saturday, May 18, 2019

Camp Musician of the Month: Billy Cerveny

Our featured Camp Musician this month is Billy Cerveny

We asked Billy to share a little about his journey with music and Young Life.

"I first became involved in Young Life in high school when I was 15 years old. I had just become a Christian and had no idea what it meant to live that out in my life. I remember my Young Life leader, Jim, coming up to me randomly one day when I was kicking a soccer ball with my friends at school. From that day forward he became a constant presence in my world and helped me process who this Jesus was and what that meant to follow Him. A couple of years ago I told him, “Jim, I don’t remember all that you said to me or taught me during those years, but I remember that you were always there, no matter what, loving me and walking alongside me.”

I moved to Nashville, TN in 1999 for my music career. It had been years since I had been involved with Young Life, but I met and became friends with the Area Director here at the time. The Lord used that relationship to create opportunities for me to play at weekend camps, banquets and summer camps. I discovered that playing music wasn’t just about building a career, but that it could be a powerful tool in the hands of the Lord.

One of the great, humbling blessings of my life has been watching the Lord speak the Gospel into the hearts of high school students and leaders through my music; people from different cultural, socio-economic and faith backgrounds. We serve a God who is calling His kids home and I’m deeply grateful that He has let me be a small part of that story through Young Life.

I’m very excited about serving at Frontier Ranch this summer. Frontier is a special place for me. It is not only where I served on my first assignment, met my wife and built so many life-long relationships, but it is also where I have seen the Lord call thousands of people to step from death to life. It is holy ground."

Visit Billy's website

Billy's music is available here on iTunes. 

Email Billy to play at your Young Life camp or banquet. 

What other Area Directors are saying about Billy:


I’ve worked with Billy numerous times and have loved every minute of it. His music has a depth and honesty to it that makes you want to lean in and soak it up. I can’t drive through Buena Vista, Colorado without putting “AM Radio” on the car stereo and rolling down the windows. His words, voice, and guitar playing always bring a smile to my face.
-Brian Summerall, Young Life Director of Ministry Strategy, Dallas, TX

Billy’s music is real, raw and connects with all kinds of people. He’s a storyteller that finds a way to weave truth, pain and God’s goodness into his lyrics. Billy is a listener. He adds wisdom and humor to every assignment. 
-Jason Archer, Area Director, Young Life Wichita Falls

Check out other camp musicians here

Thursday, May 16, 2019

What To Do When You Lose Control


Have you ever felt like you lost control of a room?

It happens...at club, at Campaigners, and it might even happen on your upcoming bus ride to camp. What do we do when kids get out of hand? How do we respond when they go off the rails?

Sometimes it’s just something silly that might take them off track at Campaigners. But sometimes it’s more serious...like making fun of other kids, or distracting people during a Young Life talk, or just blatant displays of disrespect.

How do you address a middle, high school or college friend when this happens?

Below are four appeals you could make, but they all hinge on your relationship with the student. No matter what happens, I try to remind myself that if things aren’t going smoothly, going deeper relationally is my best next step.

The Four Appeals

If there’s a problem with someone (let’s call him Steve) I’ve learned that my best approach is to talk with him one on one at some point in the near future.  I’ll typically try to do it right before our next meeting because the first time we meet should be fairly close to the first time they have to try out what I’m suggesting. I’ll ask him if we can grab dinner or a shake before our next campaigners.

It’s when we’re just hanging out that I’ll go to one of four appeals.

The Appeal to Leadership.

If I see a leadership gifting in Steve (and only IF) I’ll say, “Steve I really believe that you’ve been given a gift and that gift is leadership.” The truth is that often the kids that are taking folks off track have a real leadership gifting, but they’re misusing it. “Steve, I believe that God gives each of us gifts and I think you’ve got a pretty great one in you. I’ve seen how you can lead others and I’d love your help in leading Campaigners/cabin time. Here’s what we have planned.”

I’ll then go over our next Campaigners. Worst case - Steve is now going to go through Campaigners twice - with me one on one and later with the group. It’s a win even if it doesn’t totally connect. I’ll tell Steve that I’m hoping to get everyone involved and what I’m hoping people will walk away thinking about. This lets him understand that there really is a thoughtful plan behind what we’re doing and we’re not just sort of hanging out and talking a little about the Bible. At some point I’ll ask, “How do you think we can get other people involved?" or “What are some good questions that will help people discover the deeper meaning behind this?” As Steve helps me plan Campaigners, he’s getting invested in how it’s going to go and he’s naturally going to be more aware of how he’s interacting in the group.

It might not 100% stick on the first try, but I’ve never seen this hurt. Ideally, Steve asks if you can start meeting once a week to think through how to make Campaigners better and you’ve got a new discipleship relationship happening. You can take a relationship that’s hurting the group dynamics and turn it into one of your strongest relationships.

The Appeal to Friendship

Sometimes I’ll meet with someone and I honestly won’t see a natural or God-given leadership gifting in them. What I’ll do then is try to appeal to our friendship. “Steve, I’ve been a leader for the past two years and I’m really struggling with Campaigners right now. You’ve been around and always seem willing to help me with stuff, so I was wondering if you could help me out? I’m leading Campaigners later about X and thought maybe you could help me think through how to put this together in a way that will connect with folks and help us stay on topic.”  

All you’re doing is asking a friend for some help, while also giving Steve two looks at Campaigners and an insider's view of what you go through when leading a group. Why would Steve know how to lead a group? It’s unlikely that he’s ever had to do it, so he wouldn’t naturally understand how annoying it is when people you’re trying to lead go off track. You’re basically appealing to him as a friend while also helping him to understand the point of why you are having campaigners.

The Appeal to Decency

Maybe you don’t know Steve well enough to know if he has a leadership gifting and you can’t really appeal to a friendship yet. That’s when you can simply use this time to get to know him a little better and also appeal to decency.

Steve, I’d really like your help this week in a couple of areas. Do you remember when Sarah finally shared something last week? Do you remember your response?”

“Yeah, I made that joke that was hilarious.”

“How do you think Sarah felt about that? I grew up in a house where we kind of joked around with each other, but not everyone has that same background. I’m really hoping Sarah can come out of her shell and share more at Campaigners, but I’m afraid she’s unlikely to if you’re always dominating the conversation or you make fun of her if she shares.”
 

Honestly, this might be the first time Steve’s ever taken a second to consider how others in the group might feel.

The Appeal to Authority

I can’t remember a time I’ve had to appeal to authority, at least at Campaigners. Sometimes at camp, if there’s an issue that could involve safety, I’ve had to pull out the big guns though. In a case where people are continuously being harassed, belittled or you’ve met time and time again with someone and they just don’t care...you’ll have to appeal to your authority. “Steve, my great hope is that you’ll be a part of what we’re doing here, but I can’t keep having this conversation with you. People are telling me that they don’t want to come because of the things you’ve said/done and this time is too important to me that let this go on. Let’s figure out how to make this right. Ultimately I’m in charge of this time and if you can’t follow what we’re doing, even if you disagree with what we’re saying, I can’t have you continue."

Keep in mind, I've never gone to this one, but the only answer to someone that continues to keep people away or make people feel unsafe is your authority as the leader. If you’ve walked the steps of leadership, friendship and/or decency and they have no plans to follow your leader and are only there to cause a problem - you have to lead, even when it’s tough. You have to have this tough conversation with them.
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Written by Sean Michael Murphy.



"Murph" is an Area Director in Wayne County, Ohio. He went to the University of Cincinnati, where he met the Lord, thanks to some volunteer Young Life leaders living in the dorm! He partners in life and ministry with his beautiful wife Annie and three incredible kids: Griffin, Cooper & Parker.


Tuesday, May 14, 2019

Need Talk Video: Google Searches

You may have seen this post back in February about Jon Bellion's song Stupid Deep


Will Orr and Nic Donovan, Young Life Leaders in Culpepper, VA, made this video below and shared it with us. Feel free to use it in club talks or at Campaigners! 


 


If you have helpful resources to share, email us

Saturday, May 11, 2019

Appalachian Small Town Internship


Did you know there are places in the United States where there is no cell phone service or Walmarts within an hour drive?

Did you know that we have Young Life in some of those small towns?

Our county has the lowest life expectancy in America. We have an opioid overdose rate that’s 8x the national average. 55% of children live with NEITHER biological parent.

What a great opportunity to share the love of Christ with those who often feel on the outside!

Our Young Life area is bringing in two interns for the 2019/2020 school year. We’ve already hired one, but are still looking for one more.

The funding model is for interns to raise partial salary and supplement that with substitute teaching. We have a brand new “Young Life apartment” for housing. This opportunity would be a great training ground for launching into full-time ministry within another small town Young Life community.

Our Family’s Story

God called our family of five to McDowell County, West Virginia in 2016. Before that, we lived in the suburbs of Pittsburgh in a cul-de-sac neighborhood with great careers and volunteered as Young Life team leaders. Our extended families were within a 30-minute drive and life was so good!

But we began to sense a call to Third World or “tribal missions.” We prayed but found no clarity until someone told us about a county in America that’s been hurting for generations and where students report such large feelings of hopelessness that we wept when we heard their stories.  Within six months, we raised funds, sold our home, quit our jobs and moved to a small town with a population of 213 people.

There is so much good work to be done and God has opened doors all around us.  School board members and administrators are actively pursuing bringing Young Life to be in every school in order to combat behavioral, emotional, and addiction issues in the student bodies.

At the school where we currently do ministry, there are 475 students and 1 out of 5 students are plugged into Young Life. We had 90 folks attend our first local banquet and we raised $233.

Are you interested in being a part of this adventure?! If so, here’s a link for the intern application.

If you’d like to hear more, listen to the small towns episode on The Young Life Podcast with Scott Berg.

You can watch this YouTube video to hear the story of our town of McDowell: YouTube: The McDowell Story

And this video to learn more about the Mountain State Region of Young Life.

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Written by Paul Dick, Young Life Area Director for McDowell County, WV.  

Email Paul here for more information.